It is not uncommon for a couple to become newly engaged during the Independence Day holiday. If you’re skeptical, think of it this way: a guy presents a fabulous ring, the gal is shocked and overjoyed; she says yes, and fireworks go off to exemplify the bliss of love.
While the energy of such an occasion can keep newly engaged couples on cloud nine for months, they will eventually will have many questions about what their “happily ever after” will look like after the pomp and circumstance of a wedding.
Some questions may involve whether a prenuptial agreement is necessary. This post will provide some helpful tips for broaching the topic of a prenup.
Pick a good time to talk about it – Obviously it would be disingenuous to introduce a prenup shortly after a marriage proposal, and the same would apply if it is brought up shortly before the wedding. Depending on the nature of your relationship, there should be an opportunity to really assess what should be in such an agreement.
Focus on money management – In preparing for your new life together, a talk about prenups may provide an opportunity to express to each other your views or concerns about financial management and debt service. Most couples never talk about financial issues until after the marriage and issues arise.
Don’t draw a line in the sand –Demands from your soon-to-be spouse to sign a prenup can send some definite warning signs. Yes, there are some situations where a prenups can help keep things organized (i.e. those entering second marriages with children), but conditioning a marriage upon a prenup, can generate unneeded tension during a special time. An open and positive discussion about why having a prenup will only strengthen the marriage.
If you have questions about prenuptial agreements, an experienced family law attorney can advise you.