Our readers appreciate the technical knowledge we disseminate in our posts, but many appreciate knowing how their lives will change after a divorce is finalized. Indeed, people can describe what post-divorce life will be like, but in many cases a divorcee will simply have to experience it for themselves.
Nevertheless, it is helpful to know whether the feelings you are experiencing are normal. This post will put things in perspective.
It’s okay to be alone – In the romantic sense, it is okay to decline new romantic relationships after your divorce. Indeed, everyone wants to experience romance again and be catered to, but you may still be harboring feelings from your past relationship or dealing with unresolved issues.
Time heals all wounds – It may sound cliché, but you will get over the feelings of despair and regret as life goes on. It may not happen as quickly as you expect or when other people expect you to recover, but it will happen eventually.
Rebuilding is a process – You may have to get used to doing things your ex was accustomed to doing (i.e. managing finances, making repairs, landscaping). It may seem overwhelming at first, but practice makes perfect. If you feel like you’re over your head, asking for help is not end of the world.
Ultimately, a divorce can be viewed as a gateway to a new life. Take time to relish the opportunity to start anew. If you have questions about the legal aspects of starting over, an experienced family law attorney can advise you.