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If you are a man getting ready to divorce, you have probably found that there are few, if any, blog posts about the emotional issues that men go through during, or even after, a divorce. It may be because of the ingrained stereotype that men are not supposed to show their emotions or be sad and depressed like women can be.

However, the reality is that men do go through emotional toils in divorce; whether they are contested actions or uncontested. With that, this post will provide some helpful tidbits for men in these situations.

Have a support system – The strong don’t go through tough situations alone, so there’s no need to isolate yourself, even if you think that you don’t want to burden other people with your problems. Besides, having people in your corner to help keep things in perspective can help beyond the divorce.

Don’t blame yourself – As a guy, it is normal to think about what would have been or the mistakes you may have made. Perhaps you believe that you worked too much or did not make enough money. Regardless of the reason, it takes two people to make a relationship, and you can’t make someone love you. So you can’t be solely responsible for the breakup.

Don’t sweat the small stuff – With so many things to think about during divorce that can get under your skin, it is best not to sweat the small issues that will come up. This is why some may opt for a collaborative divorce instead of the traditional adversarial process.

If you have questions about dealing with the emotional stress of a divorce or contested custody matter, an experienced family law attorney can help.