When people get married, they typically don’t expect to get divorced. They don’t expect that they’ll fall out of love with their spouse or become so bitter and angry that they can’t even be in the same room as the other person. And they don’t expect that they might do or say things they would later regret.
During a divorce, good people can make some bad decisions. However, the fact that you and/or your ex may be reacting in negative or hurtful ways doesn’t mean you can’t try to work together to reach a fair and amicable end to your marriage. The goal is to reach a mutually acceptable agreement that the two of you understand fully.
Collaborative divorce is something that people all across California have pursued in recent years. Essentially, it allows two people to work together with open communication, accommodation and negotiation in an effort to resolve all aspects of their divorce. People divorcing need help and support to get through these tough times.
You might be thinking that collaboration is just not in the cards for your situation because you and your ex aren’t on the best of terms, or because you have both said and done some hurtful things. However, collaborative divorce is not just you and your ex trying to resolve complex issues on your own.
With the help of attorney who are experienced in collaborative law, mental health and financial specialists and other supportive professionals, you can navigate the process a little easier and focus on the future rather than dwelling on past mistakes.
Again, you do not have to be on great terms with your ex to pursue collaboration; you both just need to be willing to try and work toward the same goal. Divorce is not easy, and people experience strong, negative emotions during this troubling time. However, with guidance, support and a little perspective, you can try to make the best of a very difficult situation.