3 collaborative divorce myths debunked

When you and your spouse decide to divorce, you can become emotionally overwhelmed. You have the children to think about. Life as you know it will change. The two of you will disassemble everything you have, and make new plans to move forward. How you decide to divorce could make all the difference. Collaborative divorce is often quicker, less stressful, and creates more positive relationships in the future than traditional divorce.

Is that not what you’ve heard? There are some common myths about collaborative divorce, and it’s time to debunk those myths.

1. My spouse and I aren’t exactly in agreement and on the same page, so collaborative divorce isn’t an option. Almost all divorcing couples will have disagreements and disputes to work through. You and your soon-to-be ex will work with a team of professionals during the process to find workable solutions. The team often helps couples find creative solutions that a court would never consider.
2. We have kids and will need to work out custody arrangements, so we have to go through the traditional process. Collaborative divorce is an option for couples with children. Both parents will be able to present their wishes and circumstances to neutral experts. These experts will then help the two of you create an arrangement that is tailored to fit your needs, and is also in the best interest of the children. The courts are very happy when couples successfully work out their own arrangements regarding co-parenting.
3. We have a lot of assets, and will need the discovery process of other divorce procedures. While collaborative divorce does not have a formal discovery process, records of assets must be fully disclosed. A sworn inventory of assets may be prepared. A neutral financial specialist is part of the team to investigate, research and review all information to make sure that everything is disclosed. The neutral financial specialist makes sure that all concerns and questions have been answered.

Collaborative divorce may be a viable option for you. Both parties involved will have a chance to have their voices heard, and the two of you will get the chance to work through differences. You may have more control over your situation and avoid the uncertain outcomes and the increased disharmony that corresponds with other divorce options.