Divorce With Respect

How to tell your spouse you want to end your marriage 

On Behalf of | Nov 25, 2022 | Divorce |

People who get married assume the relationship will last forever. While this is possible, things just don’t always work out that way. People who are unhappy in their marriage may explore the option of divorcing. 

Thinking carefully about this step is critical because some marriages are worth saving. If you decide that you simply can’t remain in a relationship with your spouse, you’ll need to file for a divorce. If the marriage is really unhealthy, someone may let their spouse know when the process server hands over the divorce papers, but it’s often a better idea to let them know face-to-face. This is especially important if you have children since you’ll have to continue to work together to raise the kids. 

Choose a quiet time to talk to them

Ideally, you’ll have a one-on-one discussion with your spouse when you both have time to talk. Children shouldn’t be around for this talk, and it shouldn’t happen when either person is in a rush. You must be prepared to deal with their reactions. If necessary, take a step back while they calm down so you can talk about things later. 

Remain firm during the discussion

Your spouse may try to get you to rethink your decisions. You must remain firm in your decision to end the marriage unless you’re truly willing to give the relationship another chance. It’s important to avoid making a decision in the heat of the discussion. Instead, remain firm now about what you want to do. 

It’s best to take steps to protect yourself before you announce your intentions to your spouse. Learning about the options you have so you can make decisions that are in your best interests is beneficial. Throughout the divorce, your divorce team should help you to make decisions that are based on logical thinking —  instead of emotional responses.