If you’re going through a divorce and it goes to court, you and your spouse may end up arguing over things like who gets which assets, how to divide up the obligations with the children, who caused the divorce, and many other things of this nature.
This can all be very problematic for the children. They may feel that they have to pick sides and choose which parent is right and which parent is wrong. They may learn a lot about your relationship that you never thought they would be exposed to. They may come out of the court case feeling like the relationship with both of their parents has been changed, or worse, harmed.
If possible, you may want to consider using mediation instead.
Why is Mediation better?
Mediation gives you the advantage of you and your spouse working together in a more private setting. The children don’t have to sit through a court case, and they don’t have to be very involved in the process themselves.
You can work together to show them that you are still dedicated to being their parents, even if you’re not married. The children don’t feel like they have to pick a side because there are no sides. The mediation process focuses more on cooperation and trying to figure out the best solutions for the entire family. All of this can make it easier for the kids and can help both of your relationships with the children during the separation and after dissolution.
If you are interested in mediation to protect your relationship with your children, you can reach out to a mediation-trained attorney for more information.