When fictional couples are depicted in divorce court on television and in movies, ill will and bruised egos abound. Fortunately, real-life couples now have choices other than facing off in court that can make splitting up more harmonious and less antagonistic, provided both spouses go along with it. One of those alternatives is having a Collaborative Divorce.
If each party approaches the process with an open mind and a genuine desire to work together, then a Collaborative Divorce may suit both of you. When a Collaborative Divorce is successful, everyone feels respected and heard in the dissolution process.
Here is how Collaborative Divorce works:
Both spouses meet, each with their own attorney and divorce coach, plus additional neutral specialists for finances and children. The parties, with the help of the team, iron out all the issues pertinent to the divorce, such as support, custody, and property division. All are committed to keeping the matter out of court including the attorneys. In fact, the attorneys are not allowed to continue representing their Collaborative Divorce clients in the event they do ultimately go to court.
This process is not about who wins or loses. It’s about putting aside the customary spouse v. spouse mindset that can dominate in a courtroom. That viewpoint is replaced with a goal of having two former spouses walk away at peace with the result, minus the ire that can boil up in court. They can then move on productively with their lives.
What are some other benefits of a Collaborative Divorce?
There are sound reasons to opt for a Collaborative Divorce such as:
- It cuts down on stress and tension
- It can be a shorter process
- It sidesteps an all-out protracted legal battle that can hurt the children
- It is economical compared with going to court
Find out if Collaborative Divorce is right for you. Talk with a Collaborative Divorce professional who can describe the process in detail so you can see whether it is an avenue you wish to pursue.