Divorcing parents seek methods of minimizing the negative impact a split takes on the children. One newer way of mitigating emotional damage to minors of separated parents is to set up a nesting schedule.
Nesting involves the children remaining consistently in the family home while the adults alternate turns staying in the residence separately.
What are the benefits of nesting?
Especially during the tumultuous time of a divorce, kids need consistency and comfort. One way parents can provide this is to choose to nest rather than sell the family dwelling and transport kids between two new houses. In addition to emotional benefits for minors, nesting minimizes the economic impact on parents by eliminating the need to buy two wardrobes, gaming systems, toiletries, furniture and supplies for extracurricular activities.
Why should a family consider nesting?
Couples going through particularly difficult divorces are likely not the best candidates for nesting. This is because you will need to respect one another’s time in the home and belongings. If you doubt your ability or that of your former spouse to do so, you should probably decide on two homes for the family. However, if you and your soon-to-be-ex are on relatively good terms, it could be a viable option for you. You need to develop a plan for which parent is in the home when and remain flexible knowing that life happens and expecting things to always go according to plan often leads to frustration.
Nesting is a wonderful option for ex-spouses who can stand to be in the same room with one another and will respect the other party’s time and possessions.