People often think of divorce as one person asking for a divorce and the other person feeling like their life is being ruined. When they get to court, they expect everything to be a battle.
But does it have to be that way? It absolutely does not, and divorce can actually be better for both you and your spouse. Taking this outlook can help you work together so that you both have the best possible life after the divorce, rather than feeling like it has to be a battle. Here are a few things to consider:
Will ending the marriage relieve conflict?
First off, consider why the marriage is ending. If the answer is conflict — disagreements over money or children or the future — then you may find a lot of relief. Your spouse may as well. Clearly, the relationship was creating stress, and ending it also ends that stress.
Will you be a better parent after the divorce?
If you have children, you may find that you’re actually a better parent after the divorce. You’re happier and less stressed, and it impacts the way you spend time with the kids. You get to focus on them. Staying together for the kids may actually not be the best thing for the kids.
Will you find friendships more fulfilling?
Ending your marriage gives you time and energy to cultivate relationships outside of the marriage. Many people make new friends or find that old friendships get renewed or deepen. You won’t feel lonely. You’ll actually end up with a vibrant and fulfilling social life, even if it looks different than what you have always expected.
Working together to end your marriage
Again, looking at it this way can promote cooperation as you and your spouse end your union. You need to know what legal options you have and how to work together with your spouse on an amicable split.