Getting a divorce is difficult. It’s mentally and emotionally exhausting. You’re stressed. You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. You are consumed with thoughts of what the future will look like, all while feeling stuck in the present. You get overwhelmed thinking about how it will impact the kids, what will happen to the house, the cars, the pets. It’s hard.
At a time when it’s hard to even be in the same room as your spouse, let alone talk with them about the future, you know it’s exactly what has to happen.
Getting a divorce involves a lot of negative feelings. Oftentimes, someone within the relationship is completely blindsided by the decision. Navigating a divorce while still in shock that your spouse suddenly wants to end your marriage only makes the process more agonizing.
This is a time people in a relationship are the most vulnerable; yet being considerate of your spouse’s feelings and needs is not exactly on your radar.
You need to give yourself time to get your bearings. The more contentious the process of divorce is, the harder it will be to get business taken care of and move on.
Moving on from any broken relationship can be difficult, but it is even harder to do that when the divorce process itself aggravates the pain. You’re constantly being forced to feel the hurt, the fear and the frustration. You know how to push each other’s buttons and you get nowhere.
You need help.
If you have children, you need to remind yourself that the children are what’s important. Your dignity is important. Your emotional (and mental) well-being is important. You can’t move forward if you are stuck fighting a war with your spouse.
And you can’t just walk away.
You’re going to have to learn a new way to communicate and interact if you are going to work out things like the care of your children, how to pay bills, and how to divide your things. You’re facing so many life changing decisions and you need help.
It is possible to move forward in a positive, collaborative way with a mutual goal of finding a resolution that meets everyone’s needs. Bartholomew & Wasznicky LLP provides trained professionals to facilitate a compassionate, informative, and respectful dissolution of your marriage.