Many people consider their wedding day one of the happiest of their lives, at least in the short-term.

Marriage is a winding road of twists, turns, ups, and downs. You’ll climb mountains of success with your spouse and fall into pits of adversity from time to time. It’s the couples that have learned how to manage this best that stay together. Some couples may say their love has held them together for decades, and while that may be true, effort on multiple fronts other than merely feeling love for their partner has held their marriage firm through the years.

Meanwhile, other couples do not encounter the same bliss or eventual companionship. For divorcing couples, the reasons for divorce range in every direction imaginable, but the exact cause isn’t often the only reason, as little things wear on each partner over time until they can’t take it anymore. 

Should you feel guilty because you want to divorce your partner? Of course not. What divorce offers is an opportunity to start fresh: to understand that divorce is a two-way street and educate yourself on where the relationship faltered and how you can improve yourself for your next relationship.

3 Actions to better yourself throughout and after divorce

Divorce is a harrowing experience that will drastically impact your life. To confront the future uncertainty in your life, there are some actions you can take to lower your stress and make the experience more tolerable emotionally and financially.

  1. Craft a budget to reflect your changing financial situation: Once your divorce reaches a conclusion and assets are divided, again, create a new budget.
  2. Begin eating healthy and exercising regularly: Two of the best things you cand o for your mental and physical health is to follow is eating healthy with lean proteins, fruits and veggies and finding a form of exercise (yoga, hiking, lifting, running, etc.) that empowers your wellbeing. While eating healthy is essential, it’s also crucial to keep yourself sain, so don’t worry if you have a cupcake or a couple of pieces of pizza now and then.
  3. Find someone you trust to vent: With divorce comes aggravation for your ex and the process. Be picky and find someone you can lay it all out for, won’t judge you and will keep your thoughts in house. You may be close to many of your future ex’s relatives, parents, siblings or friends, but do not divulge any of these thoughts to someone close to them as that could hurt your case.

Following these three actions should help you clear and relax your mind, focus on the task at hand and better your relationship with yourself, your children (if applicable) and those around you throughout, and after your divorce proceedings.