Where did it start to go wrong? What role did I play? What could I have done differently? Reflecting on a situation gone wrong is good. You learn and grow from understanding past mistakes. It can help you avoid them in the future.
Ending your marriage is not an easy decision. You may struggle with the decision for weeks, months or even years before you decide to file for divorce. It may take even more time to get used to the decision. That’s only your decision. Now, you must tell the other people in your life.
In California, marriage is more than just a legal union of two people. Marriage creates an equal partnership that, according to California public policy, obliges spouses to owe each other the same good faith and fair dealings they would give someone else in another fiduciary relationship. In laymen's terms, you have a spousal fiduciary duty to better the community property (marital property) as does your spouse to you.