The process of divorce can be completely draining, financially, emotionally and personally. People often expend so much energy, time and resources on getting divorced that at the end of it all, they don't know what to do next.
It's almost like preparing for huge exam. You might spend so much of your time preparing and studying that once you've taken it, you almost don't know what to do with yourself. Do you finally relax? Do you start tackling the next project? Do you go back and review the mistakes you think you made?
Oftentimes, people will do a little bit of all these things after big test. In the case of a divorce, it can also be wise to diversify your efforts by focusing on both the logistical aftermath of the divorce and the personal aftermath of a divorce.
Logistically, you will want to:
- Change your contact name and information on various legal and personal documents
- Update your estate plan to remove your ex
- Make any necessary support payments
- Spend time with your kids in accordance with new child custody arrangements
- Change beneficiary designations on pensions, your IRA & 401K plans
- Meet with an investment advisor regarding your financial plan
Personally, you can:
- Celebrate by spending time with friends or taking a vacation
- Reconnect with people you have lost touch with during the divorce
- Take up a new hobby or join a new group
- Take some time to grieve the end of your marriage if you wish
While your divorce may be finalized, there are still things you need to do and can do in order to protect your rights and your own well-being.
We urge readers of this blog to keep something in mind as they consider what to do after a California divorce: It is not just the end of a marriage; it can also be the beginning of a new chapter and new life experiences. Taking steps to start off in the right direction can help to make the transition that much easier.